VATICAN CITY — From newspaper headlines and social media comments Oct. 12, it seemed there was a family feud going on inside the Synod of Bishops on the family.

Some cardinals — apparently 13 of the 74 cardinals participating in the synod — wrote Pope Francis a private letter expressing concern about a part or parts of the synod procedure, especially the appointment of a 10-member committee to draft the final document the synod will vote on and give to the pope. The names of the cardinals signing the letter changed over the course of the day, with four declaring they did not sign any letter and two others saying the leaked letter published by Italian blogger Sandro Magister is not the letter they signed.

In addition, on Oct. 13, Cardinal Norberto Rivera Carrera of Mexico City issued a statement saying, “I never signed the alleged letter with the attributed content that some mention.”

“I recognize that the appropriate place of discussion is with other synod fathers and under the guide of the pope, who is our guarantor of unity in the Church and who has my utmost respect and loyalty,” Cardinal Rivera added.

The synod is supposed to be a process true to the Greek roots of the word meaning “walking together.” Perhaps more than a family feud, what happened in mid-October was a family walk. Anyone with a big family — or even with just a couple very young members — knows how hard it is to keep everyone moving at the same pace and on the same trail with no arguments over rest stops or detours.

Australian Archbishop Mark Coleridge of Brisbane, writing on his blog, said the whole letter to-do was a “typically Roman melodrama, not untinged with psychodrama.”

Jesuit Father Federico Lombardi, Vatican spokesman, said concern expressed in a private letter — not Magister’s leaked and published “letter” — that Australian Cardinal George Pell and South Africa Wilfrid F. Napier said they sent the pope were addressed by Pope Francis and by Cardinal Lorenzo Baldisseri, the synod general secretary, first thing in the morning Oct. 6.

In his comments that morning, Pope Francis insisted Catholic doctrine on marriage would not be touched or put into question, Father Lombardi told reporters at the time, and he asked the synod “not to give into a ‘hermeneutic of conspiracy,’ which is sociologically weak and spiritually unhelpful.”

Jesuit Father Antonio Spadaro, a synod member appointed by the pope, tweeted that day that Pope Francis encouraged a “profound discernment” in order “to understand how the Lord wants his Church.”

Cardinal Pell told the news site Vatican Insider Oct. 13 that he was “fundamentally satisfied” with the pope’s response.

Father Lombardi told reporters that publishing the letter, or some form of it, a week after the pope responded to the cardinals’ concerns was an “act of disturbance not intended by the signatories — or at least of the most authoritative among them.”

“It is not surprising” that questions were raised about the new synod method, which gives more time to small group work and having them amend the working document rather than write a list of propositions for the pope, Father Lombardi said. But once the pope decided how he wanted things done, it was time for synod members to get to work, “which is what is happening.”

Pope Francis and members of the synod on the family, along with other guests, were scheduled to celebrate the 50th anniversary of the establishment of the Synod of Bishops Oct. 17. Blessed Paul VI established the synod to assist him in governing the universal Church by providing him with counsel based on information and observation drawn from their pastoral and theological experience around the world. It is not a deliberative body like a parliament.

Pope Francis, a Jesuit, has made changes in the synod process to expand the time for dialogue and to create the time and space needed for discernment in the style of St. Ignatius of Loyola, the Jesuit founder.

“When you are involved in a process of discernment, you know where you are beginning, but not where you will end up,” Father Spadaro, editor of the Jesuit journal La Civilta Cattolica, told Catholic News Service Oct. 13. In addition, he said, “discernment is not a spiritually abstract process — it involves real people with real life experiences, concerns and even prejudices.”